Brash Midlife

No More Sugar Coating: Midlife Can Suck

I never intended to be the Pollyanna of middle age. Yet with blog entries about seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, feeling joy...

Letting Go of Perfectionism in Search of the Perfect Party

When I was 25 or 26, shortly after I was married and had moved to Florida with my husband, I threw a few extravagant dinner parties for...

How to Get Unstuck: Change Your Perspective, Choose a New Path

Lately I’ve been feeling stuck. Like I can’t get out of neutral. Everything is flowing past me on the river of life and I’ll never catch...

Playing the Odds with Online Dating

I gave up playing Candy Crush after discovering online dating. More dopamine hits, more oxytocin, and so much more entertaining. It’s...

Waking Up to Endless Possibilities

Just a month ago I was sharing an apartment AND a house with my ex-husband. For 16 months one of us stayed in the house with our...

Living, Gratefully, with a Broken Heart

I don’t recommend having your heart broken at 53. Not counting the daily heartbreak of raising children—especially when they reach the...

Feeling Joy and Grief at Ending an Old Life and Starting a New One

I was on a Telehealth visit with my therapist this week when my husband texted me. “I sent you an email.” The subject line: Russell v...

Finding the Light When Everything Seems Hard

I had a very “Woe is me” week. Or maybe a couple of weeks, or maybe a month or six. But this week has been super ridiculously hard. (Keep...

Changing Perspective: Think That You Might Be Wrong

A while back, little handmade signs popped up around New Orleans that said “Think That You Might Be Wrong.” “Yes!” I thought...

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